Identify & refer
What to notice, what to say.
Classroom-appropriate openers. When in doubt, loop in your school counselor.
Warning signs
Sudden withdrawal from friends or activities they used to love
Sleep changes: very little, or sleeping all day
Giving away possessions, or making statements like 'it doesn't matter'
Drop in grades or skipping school
Self-harm marks, or dramatic clothing shifts to cover skin
Expressions of hopelessness or being a burden
Scripts
Opening a check-in privately
"I noticed you seemed quieter this week. I'm not asking for details — just wanted you to know I see you."
"What's going on with you lately?"
When a student discloses distress
"Thank you for trusting me with that. I want to make sure you get the right support — can we walk to the counselor together?"
"I promise I won't tell anyone."
Following up after an absence
"Glad you're back. No pressure to catch up today — let me know what pace works."
"You missed a lot. You need to stay after class."